[Recon]

This is a long shot and this probably isn't the appropriate place to ask but i am in need of help. I'm just gonna hit the high points and will fill in if you ask...
On 11 Aug i had a motorcycle accident that put me in the hospital for a week. during that time my mother in law came down to "help". i had some concerns about my children's safety so i kept the kids apart around her which she didnt like. my wife sided with her mother and everything hit the fan on the 25th. on the 30th my wife was suppose to drop off the kids at the daycare instead i later found out that she left the house, went straight to Charlotte airport, and flew to tx with my kids without my knowledge. i am in the process of getting them back and have hired an attorney but its expensive and her dad is a retire Army colonel. any help is appreciate i aint looking for a handout i am just needing anything to get my kids back thanks

 

[Southernrebel]

That sux man!


If my wife did that to me i would be on my way to tx and she better pray to the lord that someone is there man enough to stop me when i get there!

 

[Braveheart]

Best help I can give is prayers for your family. Hope everything straightens out without much conflict.

(FYI, I'd be on my way to TX as well)

 

[Dorton]

Best help I can give is prayers for your family. Hope everything straightens out without much conflict.

(FYI, I'd be on my way to TX as well)

X2

 

[Recon]

i apprecaite the prayers, gonna let the law handle this one. do it the right way so nothing can come back to haunt me. i just want my kids ya know

 

[DGraham]

Call the police. She took your kids without your consent, that's kidnapping. Taking them across state lines makes it a federal crime if I'm not mistaken.

 

[twin1911]

sorry to hear it bro, if you need anything let me know

 

[Cowboysfan]

it's not kidnapping with out a prior custody order in effect who ever has physical custody has custody.

 

[teamglock2002]

Sorry to hear about your troubles bro, your doing it the right way by letting the police handle it. Hang in there and if you need anything let us know.

James

 

[madisongunnut]

Went thru this when my ex took my daughter to Texas 9 years ago. Basically unless you have a bucket of money or can get court representation, its a dead end road. I pay support every month, saw my daughter last year for a week after 8 years,very awkward situation. Have spoken to her online or by phone not over 5 times in 9 years.She just turned 11 in July,i always send her Christmas and Birthday gifts. Its impossible to fight custody from this distance...unless of course you are loaded with cash. I spent 1000s to no avail. But they will damn sure let you know should you miss 1 child support payment.My heart goes out to you.I know a few good lawyers in Texas according to what part she went. My prayers are for your comfort and peace in these difficult and trying times.If i can help at all,please let me know.

 

[M72LAW]

Aside from a few reference differences, they follow the same general rules of every state, with one big exception. Texas allows jury trials in child custody cases.this is why alot of people run to texas with there kids knowing if they are so-called taking care of thier kids in that state...it just makes it so much harder to get custody...dont try and take your kids without making contact with law inforcment or dss...you might be looking at kidnapping charges...& texas dont play w/kid nappers...sorry man,but its about a no win situation...best thing would be to try and get your wife to come back and then make it seem like everything is fine,then when she least expects it,take her azz to court for running off with ya kids and file for a divorce...if they do it once,shame on them,they do it twice,shame on you

 

[RobertoJ]

I am sorry for your situation and (as it seems) you are plannig to do everything within the boundaries of the law, you seem to be on the right track.

However, (with all due respect) the way things are nowadays with this "information superhighway" I can't help but wonder if discussing your issue in a public forum, where EVERYBODY can see it, might be the best course of action......and I say that, with all due respect, of course.

Good luck, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[DGraham]

I was under the impression that unless there is a legal seperation filed in court both parents have joint custody.

There are some unaswered questions. Like, does the OP have legal joint custody of the children? Is the OP divorced, still married or legally seperated?

There's more to this story.

Still, sorry to hear about your troubles OP.

 

[Cowboysfan]

it's a bad situation for sure, I had someone this week who's exfiance and father of her child left her for the next door nieghbor. two months later he was visiting with the child and refused to give the child back. so now with no custody agreement he has physical custody until a court orders different. The mother can not breach the peace to try to retrive the child, of course it does not help that the father and the new girlfriend has been taking the child outside playing in the yard taunting the mother. I think once it goes to court the mother will likely be given custody of the child again. good luck sir getting an attorney is the right and only step you have at this time.

 

[nobody]

Sorry stumbled into wrong room

 

[Tigard]

As this thing works itself out, don't lose sight of the fact that the real battle is for your childrens' heart. If you win that one they'll be back. It may take 10 years but it WILL happen.

You can imagine how I know that.

 

[nutcase]

That sux man!

If my wife did that to me i would be on my way to tx and she better pray to the lord that someone is there man enough to stop me when i get there!

Wow! Really!? I'll be you're huckle bearer.

To the OP: Get a good lawyer. If you want your kids you'll have to fight for them, legally. It's only money.

 

[cochraneap]

Call the police. She took your kids without your consent, that's kidnapping. Taking them across state lines makes it a federal crime if I'm not mistaken.

lol. yeah..if the "kidnapper" wasn't their mother...*rolls eyes*...

she can take them wherever she wants until a judge issues something in writing saying she can't.

As this thing works itself out, don't lose sight of the fact that the real battle is for your childrens' heart. If you win that one they'll be back. It may take 10 years but it WILL happen.

You can imagine how I know that.

and the best way to do that is by NOT fighting against the other parent. kids see their parents as heroes, even if one or both parents are deadbeat(s) in actuality. trying to turn them against your [future?] ex-spouse will only backfire on you. if they have love and respect for her, that's a good thing, even if it ticks you off and makes you jealous. if she's no good, they'll find out on their own, you can't force it on them. it will only cause them to lose respect for all authority figures in their life, and become bitter towards you. just love them the best you can, and let your wife's mistakes come out in the wash.

 

[Recon]

as far as talking over a public forum, i aint worried b/c i'm not gonna say anything out of the way, but i understand what you mean. bad thing about it the kids are 3 and soon to be 1 so they dont understand whats going on other then i'm not around. a judge did sign a court order giving me custody temp. a few days after she left and ordered her to bringthe kids back, and since all states fall under the uniform child custody law and pkpa she has to comply. and since i have established jurisdiction in nc, nc will always have jurisdiction unless both of us move out of state. so it will be handled here. i got enough money to hire a lawyer, had to pawn almost everything i own, and as long as i can keep him paid i'll be good but thats where the problem will be. i appreciate all the thoughts and good wishes ya'll

 

[DGraham]

lol. yeah..if the "kidnapper" wasn't their mother...*rolls eyes*...

she can take them wherever she wants until a judge issues something in writing saying she can't.

You can roll your eyes all you want, but if the father also has legal custody then the mother can not just up and take the kids with out a court order. My brother went thought this a few years ago as his ex-wife tried to up and move out of state with the children. She was ordered to bring them back or face charges of kidnapping. Now he has a court order saying she can't take the kids out of state at all without my brothers consent. They are now divorced and share custody with some serious stipulations. The OP's wife put herself in a bad situation with the way she took the children and the courts will side with the father on this. Had she gone through legal means it would have been a different story.