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psychologist and Guns?

1.3K views 18 replies 15 participants last post by  Turner1  
#1 ·
I have been dealing with the demonds for a while.. Old childhood scars and things that effect my daily life. Things like anxiety/depression, shyness, Social fobia, excessive worry, insecurity etc.....

Im tired of dealing with it alone. Its effecting every aspect of my life and its hard to be happy. Im pushing my girlfriend away and friends.

My questions..

To what extend does it effect or reflect on my firearm ownership and Conceal Carry?

Im stable, very level minded etc.. I just have a big social fobia, and the things said above really make enjoying life hard.. not going into any more details

If I go to a psychologist or whatever I need to go to?.. to talk about it?.. or possibly get some meds to help if that would help (maby chemical embalance?)

How would that effect my conceal carry etc????
 
#3 ·
You're fine. They aren't going to turn you in for anything unless you tell them you're going to do something violent to someone. Get help. Find a good Psychologist...if the first one doesn't work for you try another until it does and good luck!
 
#4 ·
Go see your regular doctor and tell them whats going on. They have some meds that help release more serotonin. That is the stuff that the brain produces to help keep you on even ground. Some of the Meds take about 3-4 weeks to actually start working. You may not notice a big difference but the people around you will. Just ask me how I know........It will not affect your ability to own a firearm or your CCP. I'M NOT A DOCTOR. THIS IS JUST FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE. Depending on the severity of it you may be able to try some natural remedies. If you are into natural stuff try St. Johns Wart. YOU SHOULD STILL TRY TO TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR. They will not label you as crazy or anything else. Need specifics BDZ71 PM me.
 
#5 ·
Find a good psych to talk to so you can get out all your feelings and uncover all of the negative experiences which still affect you. Just realize that that you can't change the past, so don't let it hold you hostage. Get it all out and make a game plan to move forward controlling your own destination.
 
#6 ·
Very good advice here. I've watched members of my family spend their entire lives in a state of misery when help was just a phone call away. Make a few phone calls and you'll be glad you did. Best of luck to you and hang in there.
 
#7 ·
I need to go back for the demons I still have. I went right after my first daughter was born. It really helps to understand some of the things in your mind.
 
#8 ·
Can you go straight to a Psychologist? (that is who i need right?) or do I have to be "referred?"

man this stuff is destroying my life and my happy.. I have to do something now.

I dont even know where to start describing how this effects my daily life and my relationship.
 
#9 ·
Check your insurance. Some require a referral...but I don't think mine does. I think it's like X number of visits (10 or 15...) are covered for an in-network doctor without a referral. After that I pay out of pocket. That's per year.
 
#13 ·
It takes GUTS to talk about something so personal, and even more guts to want to deal with issues that are difficult. You have my respect.

Don't spend a lot of your life being miserable -- as too many of our family and friends do. You've gotten good advice here.
 
#14 ·
I think you are just fine but if you must go to a Psycologist go to a guy like this:
“A fear of weapons is a sign of retarded sexual and emotional maturity."
Sigmund Freud, General Introduction to Psychoanalysis (1952)
 
#15 ·
Start at your regular MD and let them know what's going on. Let them be the one to refer you, and it's possible that they can write for some meds that would help without the Psychologist. Sounds like a chemical imbalance to me.
 
#16 ·
It takes GUTS to talk about something so personal, and even more guts to want to deal with issues that are difficult. You have my respect.

Don't spend a lot of your life being miserable -- as too many of our family and friends do. You've gotten good advice here.
Thanks man, means alot!

Thank you all for the advice and pointers etc.. Means alot.

I know I need help. This is literally taking over my life. Im tired of being way over motional over NOTHING. And getting stupid over exagerated thoughts (worst case scenario) in my head for random nothing reasons, and getting all worked up over it. Im tired of taking myself out of the fun for fear of not fitting in, im tired of having something to add to a conversation, 2nd guessing myself and zipping up and not saying a word because I cant open up and say my thoughts.
Im tired of being the guy that goes to the group thing with the girlfriend and not being sociable or speaking hardly at all... Im not retarted people, I have stuff to say, I just cant get it out!
Im tired of over thinking nothing and workign myself up.. Example
If you called say your girlfriend, maby your sister, maby your mother and they didnt answer... no big deal right?
ok so 15 min. pass and they dont call back so u call again, again no answer?..
What now?
Oh they are just buisy right? Maby dont have there phone with them?.. maby fell asleep?.. maby no signal?
dont sweat it right?
sometimes yea, no big deal... sometimes I get it in my head the things that "could" be wrong.. the reason they "could" not be answering, then its full bent out of shape worrying myself to death!
Like a self brought on panic disorder?.. chemical imbalance?
Once years ago my sister had been to a wedding that was suppose to be short, hours later I called to see how it went or something (cant remember) but nobody answered, called her boyfriend (now hubby) no answer.. No big deal right?
Somehow I got worked up to thinking something was wrong, maby they were in a wreck or something.
Im ashamed to say it but part of the healing process Im ashamed to admit.... What did I do after call after call after call working myself up?
What did I do?
bet u want guess?
Called the hospital.. all of them! "my sister and her b/friend should have been in contact with us hours ago etc... Im trying to track them down, this is not like them im scared they have been in an accident or something, can you check your records to see if anyone has been brought in tonight?"
Seriously.. who the F does that?
Reality?... they went to the reception they had not planned on going to and left there phones in the truck..

Im sure you seen my thread about relationship issues... my girlfriend says im smothering.. Cant you see where she gets that Idea? I do the same stuff with her

I admit I have a problem, I want it fixed
 
#17 ·
i have been to one since getting my CCW...........it was nice to talk to someone that didnt really know you, friends and family will 90% of the time tell you what they think you want to hear about your problems........the therapist, will tell you what you need to hear and help you get it off of your chest..........did wonders for me
 
#18 ·
man this stuff is destroying my life and my happy.. I have to do something now.

I dont even know where to start describing how this effects my daily life and my relationship.
Trust me brother, I've crawled along that same damn ditch.
If you are to the point of posting the realizations you are having about your state, think of yourself, your life, your loved ones first and quit worrying about the damn CCW. A permit is not that big a deal to go on delaying getting help over.
 
#19 ·
Your not alone. I used to have bad panic attacks for apparently no reason. I didn't tell anyone for a long time(more than 5 years). I tried my best to live with it. Last week my doctor tested me for lupus. Come to find out panic attacks are a symptom of lupus. Get to your doctor have a full physical and blood work.
If you don't feel comfortable with your doctor find one you feel like you can talk to.