Hey guys my wife and I have decided to adopt. We are currently trying to find out what the steps are that we need to take. We were talking about having kids and we decided that we would first like to give a child that doesnt' have a home and good home and a better futer than being in the system. We still want to have our own kids but we would just like to give some poor kid a better chance at life in a loving home. If anyone has any advice please send it my wife is excited as i am. we have been maried for 10 years and no kids. I don't know but im getting checked out i think sitting on Depleted Uranium rounds or crawling on Destroyed tanks might have some impact on that who knows right. Well I hope this works out for us Thanks guys and gals.
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Just my ignorance and merely a question, but why is domestic adoption so expensive? Where/to who does that money go? It seems like if you're not absolutely loaded but want to help a kid you're SOL. I understand not making a kid apart of a family that can't support them, but paying $25k when a lot of they could go towards actually raising a kid seems like an expensive prerequisite test that is a waste (and I don't mean the adoption was a waste, I mean the money being misdirected).
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VERY little of it goes to the birth mother to cover living expenses while she's pregnant. Some of it goes for medical costs, not more than you'd pay for a delivery if you were pregnant.
The rest?
- Background study
- Home study (absolute fucking joke....don't get me started)
- Lawyers
- Adoption agency fees
- Court Costs
- etc.
We met our birth mother about 6 weeks before she delivered, during that time we (via our lawyer) paid rent, food, transportation, etc. But she certainly was not getting rich of us.
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How could something so cute come from something so...not? Don't worry dude, same thing happened in my house.
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I know right?How could something so cute come from something so...not? Don't worry dude, same thing happened in my house.
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My wife and I have talked about adopting a child in the future. I am going to assume that having firearms properly stored in your house was not an issue in the home study. Is this correct?
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Did she blindfold you right before you smelled the nail polish? Not saying it did or didn't happen to me with my 2, but we made sure there was an extra vial of remover, just in case.
She's a cutie pie. Daddy daughter time rocks!
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I allow her to paint my toenails...fingernails on special occasions. I mean...when she asks it's impossible to say no.
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Brave kid getting near those feet lol
I can understand supporting the birth mother, medical costs and some legal fees but the rest of it seems unfortunately bureaucratic.
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Firearms and ammunition need to be locked away.
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Guys, this is an awesome post and God bless anyone who is willing to make this difference in the life of of a child.
I know this process can be expensive, but make sure you are dealing with a competent tax preparer, Uncle Sam will let you take certain deductions and gives you special tax credits for years if you decide to adopt... It doesn't alleviate the financial burden, but it can take a little of the sting out of it.
Good Luck.
I know this process can be expensive, but make sure you are dealing with a competent tax preparer, Uncle Sam will let you take certain deductions and gives you special tax credits for years if you decide to adopt... It doesn't alleviate the financial burden, but it can take a little of the sting out of it.
Good Luck.
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I have two close friends who adopted--one kid is perfect and the other is a maniac--normal odds versus normal childbirth in my view... costs will run according to the way you choose--agency or private. Both of my friends went private and the costs were closer to $75,000 all in..
Good luck and bless you for having the courage to do it.
Good luck and bless you for having the courage to do it.
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